Writing Wedding Vows | Talk to your Officiant
Whether a religious official will marry you or a celebrant, it is always a great place to start by reaching out to this person for advice on your wedding vows. Depending on your scenario there may also be obligatory things you must include in your speech to officialise the wedding.
No doubt this person will have experienced good and bad wedding vows first hand and can give you some hot tips on what to include or avoid.
Talk to your Wedding Photographer | Writing Wedding Vows
Your Wedding Photographer has most likely experienced many weddings where the Vows have touched the hearts if their guests. It’s these vows, which evoke great emotion, and a good wedding photographer is able to capture this! No doubt they have also experienced the other hand, where the vows have been distasteful or boring. Chat to your wedding photographer about what kinds of vows they think have created nice energy to get a few ideas.
Tone & Timing | Writing Wedding Vows
Planning a structure to your vows with your partner is crucial. Both agree on duration (we advise max 2-3 mins), so neither of you are speaking drastically longer than the other.
Agree on a tone;
Loving & compassionate?
Casual, carefree & composed?
Or jovial, jokey and animated?
We believe a balance of all of these is the perfect recipe for you to nail it!
Of course you want to surprise your partner on the day with a thoughtful and considered piece. But you also want them to be aware that you plan to have a laugh here and there, so then they don’t go bust out a tearjerker!!
Don’t be controlling | Writing Wedding Vows
We understand it can be hard to let go of control when it comes to your wedding vows, especially if your partner isn’t as practised as you are at writing or public speaking. However, it is important to let your partner have their chance to say everything they want to say to you. After all there is only one chance at this (well we hope)!
Don’t over do it! | Writing Wedding Vows
Obviously your guests are there because they love you… by all means this is the time for you to voice your appreciation for your partner but do try to avoid gloating or bragging – At PVH we believe the best speeches are usually the most humble and heartfelt.
Easing your Nerves
A good way to enjoy this special part of the ceremony (rather than being a bundle of nerves) is to talk about memories or moments in the relationship that make you smile. This will help put you at ease – and make for an entertaining and pleasant speech. None of your guests are there to see you squirm, so relax and enjoy yourself!
Avoid clichés, in jokes or embarrassing your partner.
This is not the time to be inappropriate! Save it for the speeches (or the cab ride home)!
Do not procrastinate and leave writing your vows to the last minute!
There is nothing worse than it being obvious on the day that one of the couple has invested more time, energy and heart into their vows…To then be presented with something half hearted, lacking depth and emotion.
Quick tip: Never underestimate a nice clean sheet of paper to read off on the day. Re-write your vows or type them out on a fresh crisp sheet once you have finalised it.
In front of a mirror if it helps!?
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